Catering our Love to Men :)When you walk by a newsstand, you can see hot topics such as "50 ways to turn your man on", " how to make him fall for you" etc...but very rarely do you see "What men truly need in a relationship" (without the obvious sex aspect). After discovering for myself, from hearing guy friends and my own honey what they truly need to feel loved in a relationship, I came across this list that covers the main needs that our dear men want:
Need #1: Respect his judgment.
A man deeply needs the woman in his life to respect his knowledge, opinions and decisions. Show you respect him by calling on his knowledge in a given subject.
Need #2: Respect his abilities.
Men often need to figure things out for themselves and if they can, they feel like they’ve conquered something and are affirmed as men. So… next time he is trying to put together the new shelf from IKEA… don’t try to help him (unless he asks)!
Need #3: Respect in communication.
Try your hardest not to continually remind him of something he hasn’t done yet—or something he needs to do. Try to word your sentences in a way that doesn’t express disappointment.
Need #4: Respect in public.
The male ego is the most fragile thing on the planet. Try not to criticize him in public, put him down or even question his judgment in front of others.
Need #5: Respect in our assumptions.
Try not to jump to negative conclusions about him. Don’t assume the worst!
So next time you’re wishing he would tell you how much he loves you—remember that he desires respect equivalent to your desire!
Thank you Davine! These are great tips; I'm going to try to master #2, which I've failed to respect a few times during our move and unpacking, oups. Fortunately there are tons of things left to put together and install so I'll try and see if acknowledging and praising my man's abilities lifts our moods up ;)
ReplyDeleteAlso, I've once asked a group of guys how to make them the "happiest husband on the block" and they unanimously said:
1. sex
2. a man cave in their house such as a garage or basement that they can have absolute control over. No forced cleaning, no pretty decorating accents, no pressure to finish or tidy ongoing projects.
Aren't men fascinating?
They ARE fascinating indeed, and surely amazing. I wanted to focus more on the emotional aspect for man on this post, since we don't really talk about it a lot, but definitely, every man need his own man cave. Mine has the basement with all his XBOX, games, and music stuff. And sex, well, who doesn't need it? :P Thanks for your input and congrats on your new home!! How exciting!!
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